Friday, October 23, 2015

11 Facts About Suicide



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  1. Nearly 30,000 Americans commit suicide every year.
  2. In the U.S., suicide rates are highest during the spring.
  3. Suicide is the 3rd leading cause of death for 15 to 24-year-olds and 2nd for 24 to 35-year-olds.
  4. On average, 1 person commits suicide every 16.2 minutes.
  5. Each suicide intimately affects at least 6 other people.
  6. About 2/3 of people who complete suicide are depressed at the time of their deaths. Depression that is untreated, undiagnosed, or ineffectively treated is the number 1 cause of suicide.
  7. There is 1 suicide for every 25 attempted suicides.
  8. Males make up 79% of all suicides, while women are more prone to having suicidal thoughts.
  9. 1 in 65,000 children ages 10 to 14 commit suicide each year.
  10. There are 2 times as many deaths due to suicide than HIV/AIDS.
  11. Over 50% of all suicides are completed with a firearm.

Monday, October 19, 2015

Taking Back Your Power in Seven Easy Steps

Relationships are about power. We give some, we take some -- that is the ideal recipe, eh?
Yet, so many of us give up our power to others in a relationship, sometimes out of fear of being alone, or fear of losing security (financial, emotional, sexual). Notice a pattern emerges. We sometimes stay in poor, unhealthy relationships out of fear -- brought on by giving away our own power.
So ? How do we get our power back and put our relationship, or at least our attitudeabout our relationship, back on an even keel?

First ~ Remove the rose colored glasses and see things for what and how they really are. This is a tough one for most of us because we have lived so long under an illusion that there is permanence in a world where permanence just does not exist. Change is a constant in the physical life. Energies continually shift and we are being impacted by these changes every moment of every day. Accepting that 'things' change is step one in returning our power to ourselves -- becoming self-empowered.

Second ~ Finding the right balance. I am saying 'right' balance because balance can be relative or subjective. We often determine balance in a relative way, perhaps estimating it by comparing our perception of balance to someone or something else. Subjective balance is that which is more pointed toward our own personal feel for it - an introspective perception that is biased by our individuality. Which balance is 'right' balance? Right balance is that which serves the good of the whole - plain and simple. And, we are part of that whole.

Third ~ Create a "Me" wall. One sure-fire way of building your confidence and taking back your power is to create a 'Me" wall that contains things you like about yourself, photographs of happy times, prints of special places you love or things that you enjoy. Surround yourself with positive reinforcement, bolstering your confidence by hanging that special certificate you received, your diplomas, certifications, and degrees. Fill your wall with everything positive you have about yourself and ... include a mirror right smack dab in the middle so you can see yourself, too ! Don't feel that this is being egotistical or vain because it is not. It is OK to appreciate your accomplishments. When we lose appreciation for our own success, we effectively diminish our personal power. A "Me" wall reaffirms our self-esteem and re-establishes a belief in our own powers and abilities which equates to self-empowerment, not undue favor of ourselves.

Fourth ~ If the world is a stage, be your own writer, director and star ! Shakespeare said it most poignantly that the world is a stage and that we are all actors (or something akin to this ~smile~). I say ... don't stop at merely being an actor, be your own writer and director, too! You are the product of your thoughts, so include the whole show in your thoughts and create, produce, direct and star in your own life. What fun !

Fifth ~ Utilize the art of visualization to achieve your goals. And, don't be afraid to dream big! Visualization and dreams run along parallel lines. We have hopes and dreams. Now ... take those hopes and dreams and see them visually. Take five or ten minutes every day to create a daydream of your hopes and see them exactly as you would like it. By visualizing your dreams, you give them power, thereby fortifying your self-empowerment. You can also take it a step further into contemplation and not only visualize your dreams, but also incorporate all your senses -- seeing, feeling, hearing, tasting, and smelling.

Sixth ~ Know that every stumbling block is really a stepping stone in disguise. Our perception of things can make all the difference. Sometimes we just need to ask ourselves ... "Is the glass half empty or half full?" You've heard this before, I'm sure, but consider the difference between the two --- emptiness or fullness -- direct opposites. Seeing a glass as half empty is perceived as the glass being deficient and lacking, therefore, of negative value. However, seeing a glass as being half-full is perceived as being abundant and sufficient leaving a positive connotation. Don't allow stumbling blocks to stop your progress; perceive them as stepping stones and flit across them toward your goals without skipping a beat. See the glass as half-full.

Seventh ~ A smile is a curve that doesn't need straightening out. Smile more -- at others, at yourself! Smiling does more than simply stretch your facial muscles. It opens the floodgates of unconditional love and compassion. Share that infectious smile of yours with everyone you meet and keep it on your face daily. Why? Because there is this thing called 'muscle memory' ~~ a physical process where muscle mass becomes familiar with a movement over time and 'memorizes' it as a motor skill. Reminding yourself to smile more every day will make it so that your smile will simply become a permanent part of your life and the effort of smiling, although physical, comes from within the Soul, the 'real' you! Let it out !

By taking back your power .. in your job, your home and your relationships, you begin to emerge as a more confident, successful, and empowered individual --- one who is unafraid to begin or end a relationship. You give yourself the power to make the choice, your own choice, unhindered and uninfluenced by any one other than yourself.

Feng Shui Office Tips for Your Desk

What are Feng Shui office tips for your desk?
Feng Shui has become popularized to apply to all things, expanding its original purpose.  The following is a contemporary adaptation of classical Feng Shui concepts.
The location of the desk and chair are key factors for Feng Shui in the office.  Put your desk in the “Command Position” of the office. There are several layers to the Feng Shui power spot.  Today, we will talk about the desk location and what you see when you look up.
Are you in command of your space?  The first principle is to get the Yin Yang correct.  Have supportive and receptive Yin to your back and right side.  Have energetic and active Yang to your front and left side.  Door on your left is preferable.

The Feng Shui “Command Position” of the office desk is:
  • The spot furthest from the door is the “protected” location.  We perform better if we feel safe and supported at work.  Facing the yang side is positioning yourself to see what’s coming and grab those that are opportunities.
  • Having the grandest view of the entire room.  You can see everything in the room, especially the door.  This is in command of the space.
  • A solid wall behind the chair that gives proper support.  The back is the vulnerable Yin side.  Remember the concept, “I’ve got your back.”  It governs the quality of your relationships and health.  Hang a picture of a solid mountain or one that exudes  confidence, strength and integrity.
  • The door is in clear eye shot.  The door is the Mouth of Qi, where the active Yang energy penetrates.  Facing Yang places you in the optimum position to see, filter through, and capture the opportunities that are in perpetual existence.
  • Having the most active energy to your left while sitting (i.e. the door, window, street, noise, lots of activity or movement).  Entering your desk from the left (while sitting) is best.  This is the Yang side, associated with the active Male energy.  It influences material opportunities, incoming wealth and prosperity.  If you cannot place your desk in this position, place a CD player, TV or water fountain on your left, something that moves, generates activity or makes noise.
  • The right side is the receptive Yin side, associated with Female energy.  It is ideal for the right side (while sitting down) to be supported by a wall. Make it quiet, subdued and less active than the left.  This lends support to the qualities of nurturing, creativity and, personal development.  Place heavy pieces of furniture, earthen objects or a picture of mountains here.
  • In Feng Shui we do not distinguish one side as being better that the other.  They are interdependent and one exists because of the other.  Both are necessary to balance your sense of well-being.
  • The next level.  Learn what your Gua or Life Star # is place your desk in one of your good directions.  

No Nos of the desk position:
  • Sitting with your back to the door is not good.  Your back to Yang energy is an obstructed view, creates obstacles to getting your work done, missed opportunities and increased politicking behind your back.  You are not facing the world that is happening around you.  Instead, you have your back to it.  You inadvertently miss what is happening around you.  If it can’t be helped, try to position the desk so the door is to your side or in your periphery vision.  The last option is to put a mirror in front of you so you can see what is behind you.
  • Do not sit in alignment with a door, two doors or between a door and window.  You end up sitting with yang on both sides of your body.  Over time, you will find your self feeling drained and tired.  This is because humans need a balance of activity and rest.  Constant bombardment of energy will deplete you.  Solutions – Move out of alignment of these configurations. Put a curtain or screen on your right side.  Keep one of the doors closed.
  • Do not sit facing a wall. Over time, you will begin to adapt the psychology of facing blockages and obstacles. Your mind does not work at its peak. You will miss out on opportunities and encounter obstacles in your work. Projects have difficulty getting off the ground and promotions are slow to come by. If it cannot be helped, use a mirror to reflect what is behind you. Try this experiment. Sit with your face to the wall. Look up and notice how it feels. Then turn around and look out. You will see and feel the difference! 
Facing a Wall is not optimum. Click for details.
  • If you cannot move your desk, hang a picture of scenery featuring an open field to symbolize your own personal “bright hall”.  Or hang an image in front of you to symbolize being faced with many opportunities.  This will help counter the negative effects of facing a wall, and will create reason for you to change desk to one with better feng shui.

Bad with window behind. Click for details

  • Do not sit with your back to a window.  This is too Yang and the backside is not supported by needed Yin energy.  Reposition yourself or use a curtain or screen behind you.
  • Sitting in alignment with the door or to too near a door, especially the front door is an unprotected and vulnerable location.  If the office lay-out means you are in that vulnerable spot, try to sit so you can see the door at all times and have a view of people approaching.  Make extra effort to have the necessary support symbols with you to counter the negative effects of such a desk location.  Create the circumstances to move your desk at the next opportunity!
  • Do not position your work desk so you are directly facing someone as it causes confrontational energies to build up between you.  Move your desk or chair to avoid this.

The 9 areas represented by the feng shui bagua map

Working with the bagua map is one of the most powerful ways to create positive changes in your life.
It focuses your intention to produce astonishing results fast!
As I have stated elsewhere, it is my belief that feng shui works because it both enhances the beneficial energy in your home AND sets a specific intention in place establishing a positive vibration. Working with the bagua map to bring feng shui in the home is like having a playdate between the intellectual and intuitive side of the brain. 
It focuses your intention to produce astonishing results fast!
The feng shui bagua map allows you to focus your intention and enhance the positive energy for a specific area of your life.
The best way to use the feng shui bagua map is as follows:
  1. Take stock of your life and set goals. The very first thing I do during a consultation is to have my client fill out a life assessment worksheet . This allows me to decide which areas to focus on first.

  2. Map out the areas of your home using the bagua map. You need to overlay the bagua map onto your home. The goal is to divide your home up into nine equal parts like the feng shui bagua chart.
  3. Start making adjustments slowly. Based on your life-assessment worksheet, decide which area or areas to focus on first. Be sure the area is clean and free from clutter. Make feng shui adjustments and add enhancements slowly so you can identify what works and what doesn’t. 

The nine areas represented by

the feng shui bagua map are:

  1. Abundance and Prosperity. This area represents wealth, happiness and peace. It also represents fortunate opportunities and your ability to take advantage of them.

  2. Fame and Reputation. This area represents how others perceive you and how they value and recognize your contributions. It also corresponds to illumination from within, integrity and honesty.

  3. Relationships and Love. This area represents your relationships with others. It helps you foster long-lasting and harmonious relationships built upon mutual trust and unconditional love.

  4. Creativity and Children. This area represents joy, fullness, creativity, and imagination. It also signifies your relationship with your children and child bearing.

  5. Helpful People and Travel. This area represents support, guidance, and love from close friends and unseen helpers. Along with moving and traveling, it also denotes letting go of everything and everyone that doesn’t serve you.

  6. Career and Journey. This area represents more than your career, it corresponds to your life purpose and the flow of life.

  7. Skills and Knowledge. This area represents personal strength, wisdom, resourcefulness, self-mastery, and self-control. It also stands for the link between a calm mind and intelligent mind.

  8. Family and Elders. This area represents strong health, loving family relations, honesty and forgiveness, and the foundations for life.

  9. Health and Center. This area also stands for health and a balanced life.

The 6 most important things you need to know about office feng shui.

A proper feng shui office helps you feel inspired, productive, and powerful. And when done well, feng shui will enhance your creativity, discipline and success. Follow these 6 essential guidelines to make the most of office feng shui:
    1. Clear clutter and organize.
    2. Make sure your desk is in the proper place.
    3. Use appropriate artwork and imagery.
    4. Balance and harmonize the space.
    5. Choose suitable feng shui office colors.
    6. Incorporate stress relievers.

1. Clear clutter and organize.

One of the most fundamental steps in creating a feng shui office is to get rid of clutter. If you've read about clutter control then you know that clutter has a profound impact on your emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual well-being. When you clear clutter you bring in vital energy that will help you with mental clarity, focus, and inspiration.
Maintaining an organized office and desk will help you in innumerable ways. It will:
  • Increase effectiveness, efficiency and productivity
  • Enhance discipline, creativity and success
  • Attract abundance
  • Improve mental clarity and focus
  • Reduce stress and help you to feel more relaxed and peaceful
  • Give space for new projects and creative endeavors to flourish
  • A clutter-free and organized office allows room for new, refreshing energy and ideas.
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FENG SHUI OFFICEKeep everything that you
use daily within arms reach.
Create an organization system that works. You need to establish a personal work-style so that you can maintain a clutter-free, organized office. Keep everything that you use daily within arms reach — you shouldn’t have to get up from your desk to perform daily tasks. You should also deal with paper work at least once a week — it won’t be nearly as overwhelming if you do your filing, pay bills, open mail, etc. consistently.
Here are a few other things to keep in mind: try to leave your desk clutter-free and organized at the end of the day; don’t overcrowd your bookshelves, it will leave you feeling overwhelmed and overextended; and if your space is cramped, then open it up with mirrors.

2. Make sure your desk is in the proper place.

In a feng shui office you want to make sure that you are sitting in the power position. That means that you can see the door when seated at your desk. Ideally, you should be able to see as much of the room as possible. The diagram below illustrates how to place your desk in the power position.

The placement of your desk is one of the most important feng shui adjustments you can make.
Sitting in the power position is a key element in a feng shui office. The person seated farthest from the entrance will have the most power. If you sit too close to the door, you will be distracted by daily/petty details. If you sit with your back to the door, you will suffer inauspiciously to office politics, backstabbing, etc.
If you have to share your office space with another, you should try to avoid sitting back to back. It is also best to avoid sitting face to face. Both positions tend to create conflict. If you can’t avoid sitting face to face, either stagger the desks or create a small barrier with a plant, photo or other object. Concentrate on acoustical privacy—use headphones and muffle phone conversations.

Word of Advice

Did you know that in feng shui the person seated farthest from the entrance will have the most power?

In an open plan with many desks, use plants to soften sharp edges and corners. Sharp edges create “poison arrowsâ€? which contribute to conditions such as irritability, discomfort, and even disease to name a few! Also, the aisles should be large enough so that the energy moves slower. Make sure to use subtle colors in an open office plan. Bright, vivid colors are too active in a large bustling room.

And of course, your desk should be uncluttered and organized. 

3. Use appropriate artwork and imagery.

FENG SHUI OFFICEWhen you surround yourself with images
and objects that you love and that inspire you
you create a living affirmation for your goals.
In a feng shui office you want to surround yourself with images and objects that keep you inspired, creative and productive. Add flowers, art and beautiful window treatments. Hang pictures, mottos and images that symbolize what you want to accomplish. Choose furniture and accessories that speak to you of prosperity, abundance and success.
You can use your feng shui office as a template for what you want to create in your life and work — your office and the physical objects within should reflect the transformation you desire. Read more about the law of attraction and environmental psychology.
Infuse your office with your personality—it will foster and support personal growth and success.
Every object in your office has an influence on you — Carl Jung called this numinosity. Make sure your office is having a positive and uplifting effect on you!

4. Balance and harmonize the space.

Balance and harmony are important attributes of a feng shui office. There are two ways to balance and harmonize your environment — you can either use yin and yang or feng shui elements.
Yin and yang represent feminine and masculine energies. Nourishing energy strikes a balance between the two extreme forces of yin and yang. Let's say for example you worked in an overly yang environment with high ceilings, light colors, angular furniture and lots of natural light. You would need to balance this overly yang environment with some yin energy. You might add curved or flowing shapes, darker colors, soft furniture and some window coverings. Read more about yin and yang energy here.
Feng shui elements represent the natural elements of wood, earth, metal, fire water. It is important that all five elements are represented in your environment. Even more important is that the elements are in balance.
When the elements are in balance then your life is more likely to be in balance and you will have greater success in manifesting what you desire.
As an example, let us say that you work in a very bright office (the fire element) with an abundance of light colors including metal filing cabinets, computers, faxes, etc. (the metal element). In this case, you would want to focus on bringing in the other elements. You could bring in some plants for the wood element, some earthy colors for the earth element, and an aquarium for the water element.

It doesn’t matter which method you use, it only matters that your space is balanced and harmonious. Choose the system that feels right for you.

FENG SHUI OFFICEThe image to the left is a good example of a balanced environment. It has characteristics of all five feng shui elements. The wood element can be seen in the soaring vertical window treatments. The earth element is represented by the horizontal, rectangular furniture as well as the earthy colors and pottery. The fire element is brought in through the natural and artificial lighting and the antler base of the lamp. Finally, the water element can be seen in the mirror and asymmetrical shapes.
Yin and yang are balanced in this environment too. The yang attributes—vertical volumes, light colors, sunlight, hard surfaces, and rectilinear shapes—are tempered by yin characteristics like darker colors, soft drapery, curved forms, and low horizontal surfaces.

5. Choose suitable feng shui office colors.

Color has a remarkable impact on your psychological and physical well-being. When choosing feng shui office colors consider the following:
  • Which colors are appropriate for a feng shui office space.
  • The common psychological effects of color.
  • The feng shui bagua and the colors that correspond to each area.
Soft yellow, sandstone, pale gold, pale orange, pale green, and blue-green are always appropriate feng shui office colors. Adding white will increase clarity and mental focus. Browns and earth tones will ground and stabilize the office, however, they don’t stimulate mind. Read more about color psychology here. You can also choose colors based on yin/yan or feng shui element principles to create balance.

6. Incorporate stress relievers.

FENG SHUI OFFICEKeep stress and irritability to a minimum by choosing furniture with rounded corners or positioning sharp corners out of traffic flow. Avoid harsh lighting or lots of glare since it can cause irritability and fatigue. You can also add music, running water or mist with essential oils to keep stress levels to a minimum.