9 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

1. All successful relationships require some work. – They don’t just happen, or maintain themselves.  They exist and thrive when the parties involved take the risk of sharing what it is that’s going on in their minds and hearts.  Open communication and honesty is the key.
2. Most of the time you get what you put in. – If you want love, give love.  If you want friends, be friendly.  If you’d like to feel understood, try being more understanding.  It’s a simple practice that works.
3. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot in someone’s life. – Never force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they know your worth, they will create one for you.
4. There is a purpose for everyone you meet. – Some people will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you; but most importantly some will bring out the best in you.  Learn to see and accept the differences between these people, and carry on accordingly.
5. We all change, and that’s okay. – Our needs change with time.  When someone says, “You’ve changed,” it’s not always a bad thing.  Sometimes it just means you stopped living your life their way.  Don’t apologize for it.  Instead, be open and sincere, explain how you feel, and keep doing what you know in your heart is right.
6. You are in full control of your own happiness. – If your relationship with yourself isn’t working, don’t expect your other relationships to be any different.  Nobody else in this world can make you happy.  It’s something you have to do on your own.  And you have to create your own happiness first before you can share it with someone else.
7. Forgiving others helps YOU. – Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.”  It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”  Forgiveness is the answer.  It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life.
8. You can’t change people; they can only change themselves. – Instead of trying to change others, give them your support and lead by example.  If there’s a specific behavior someone you love has that you’re hoping disappears over time, it probably won’t.  If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so this person knows what you need them to do.
9. Heated arguments are a waste of time. – The less time you spend arguing with the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the people who love you.  And if you happen to find yourself arguing with someone you love, don’t let your anger get the best of you.  Give yourself some time to calm down and then gently discuss the situation.

9 Small Gestures that GIrls Love

#1 Unexpected Hug from Behind
A hug from behind says you wanted to be close to her so badly that you couldn’t even wait for her to turn around. Especially when it’s a surprise, it’s a great way to show you care. Make sure it’s your girlfriend though, random girls aren’t as enthused with surprise hugs.

#2 Give Her Precise ComplimentsRather than saying “you look pretty” (actually, you should say that too) compliment her on a specific piece of jewelry, or the way her hair looks, or the color of her dress. It’s more authentic than a blanket compliment. Compliment her often but not so much that it becomes insincere.

#3 Walk Between Her and the StreetChivalry isn’t dead and it’s nice to let her know you care about her. Don’t demand it, but when walking on the sidewalk subtly staying between her and traffic is incredibly sweet. This guy and his wife seem like they’ve been together for a while, so it clearly works.

#4 Write a Note on Special OccasionsHolidays, anniversaries, birthdays, or Thursdays, whenever you get her a gift include a handwritten note. It doesn’t have to be long, but something more than a To: _____ From:____. Chances are she’ll end up cherishing it more than the present itself…maybe.

#5 Put Your Arm Around Her and Rub Her ArmA persons arm might be the most platonic place on the body, which is why it’s such a cute spot to rub. It says I care about you so much I just want to touch you and it doesn’t matter where. The arm touching here is in a not so platonic way, but you get the idea.

#6 Hand on Her Back As You Walk in a CrowdNot in a forceful or territorial way, but more to assure that she’s still there next to you. It also shows how proud you are to be with her. Just ask Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner.

#7 Bring Up Details from Past ConversationsGirls know they drone on sometimes, but it’s the boyfriend’s duty to listen. Let her know you’ve been listening by casually bringing up things she’s mentioned in past conversations. In fact this one can be applied to all your friends, not just that special someone.

#8 Don’t Ask Just Do ItWhether it’s the dishes, bringing her home takeout, or cleaning up a mess she made, it’s nice to do stuff without mentioning it. And when she notices you doing something she easily could’ve missed it’s more authentically kind. Everyone appreciate this sort of gesture, but especially girlfriends.

#9 Say “Thank You” Even After the Small ThingsWhen she wakes you up in the morning so you’re not late, when she hands you a towel as you get out of the shower, when she makes the meal she knows you like. Also make eye contact with her as you say it, she’ll love it.

20 Tips About Self, Love and Relationship for Women

1. A man won’t let go if he really loves you.
- Do not hold on to someone who has let go of you. He does not love you and does not value having you. Believe me, he will not let go if he really loves you. There is another reason he is not willing to tell.
2. Do not look for reasons why he ended the relationship.
- There is only one reason why he ended your relationship. He just does not love you. Do not waste your time thinking of reasons or what you should have done. Move on and be open to a man who will truly love you.
3. Do not get hang up on your past.
- Do not nag or distrust your current boyfriend just because your ex hurt you. Do not treat him or the relationship the same way. Do not compare. He will not react the same way as your ex. Do not be worried that your simple mistakes will cause him to look for another girl. What happened with your ex was not your fault. It was not because you didn’t guard him enough or you didn’t make him happy enough.
4. Do not look into images.
- How many times have you met a girl who didn’t have the best image in school or at the office, but you get to know the girl and found out she was actually extremely nice? Do not rely on images. Oftentimes, it is far from reality. Do not fear men just because your “supposedly” perfect ex-boyfriend mistreated you.
5. Always have your own set of rules.
- Set your limits on how far you’d go for a guy. It’s perfectly ok to give and do everything as long as it’s worth it. And it’s worth it if the guy is treating you right.
6. Do not be scared to lose him.
- Don’t be scared that he’ll break up with you. Once you are afraid of losing him, you easily can be taken advantage. Be strong and if something is unacceptable, do not accept it and speak up.
7. Avoid calling your guy.
- It’’ a guy thing. The relationship will definitely be better if it’s the guy who’s calling, not the girl. He will get tired of you if you keep on calling. He will lose interest and challenge. More so, he will get annoyed. But it’s a girl thing also that your fingers get too itchy until you dial his number. But avoid as much as possible. Call only if really needed (like checking if your suspicions are reasonable).
8. There is a guy who will value you.
- There is a guy out there who can make you feel valued, appreciated, and loved. And I mean, not just during your first few weeks together. So don’t lose hope. Don’t settle for a lesbian if you are not attracted to women. There is a man out there who can love you like a girl can.
Also, do not believe him when he says it’s just the way he really is. He’s not the sweet or expressive-type. Remember during your first few weeks together? Where has that sweet guy gone? He simply is not that into you anymore.
9. Always be the only one, no matter what.
- Do not ever fall for a guy who has another girl, be it his wife, girlfriend, or any girl that he says he just can’t get rid of for whatever reason. If you truly believe that he loves you and for some reason, he can’t leave or let go of another girl, then you are no different from any ordinary mistress.
10. He must respect you.
- No matter how long the relationship has been, he should always show respect towards you.
11. If he fooled you, end it.
- Philandering once is enough. You can never trust nor respect the person again.
12. Never start a relationship the wrong way.
- Do not steal another girl’s man, for whatever reason. Nor should you enter a relationship for the wrong reasons (loneliness, on the rebound, getting back at your ex, man-dependency, etc.) it is bound not to last. You will only end up wasting more years of your life.
13. Do not force yourself into a relationship.
- Do not get into a relationship just because your friends are getting impatient with your dating escapades and the one hasn’t come yet. Do not choose who to say yes to based on superficial things like money, looks, cars, etc.. If you are even thinking of these things, you have not fallen in love yet.
14. Do not settle.
- If you are not happy anymore with your relationship, break up instantly. He will not stay with you forever no matter how upright he might seem to be. Eventually, he will also want love and happiness in his life.
15. A relationship has to have love.
- Love is the only thing that will push you to give your efforts into making the relationship work. And believe me, keeping a relationship requires genuine efforts of both parties.
16. Don’t be afraid to be single.
- It’s fun to be single, try it. You can go out whenever and wherever you want. You are free. You can date whomever you want and you get to go out for free! Do not get a boyfriend just for the sake of having one. Do not settle.
17. Be a good girl.
- Be a good girl to attract a good guy. Enter the relationship with sincere intentions. Take the guy and the relationship seriously with the plan of spending the rest of your life with that person (of course, this is after you had your bit of fun in your younger years). If you compare your flings from your real relationships, you will know that the latter makes you happier and more fulfilled.
18. Love without limits.
- Whether you loved and gave everything or loved but held out for some things, if the relationship ends, you still get hurt. But if you gave your everything, you were happy and you could say that it was worth it. If you didn’t give your all, you get hurt for nothing.
19. You will get over him.
- Love is over-stated. Love eventually ends and you are free to love another.
20. Be the one.
- Act like you are the one. Don’t be a nagger. Don’t hinder his gimmicks. Don’t give in to him too easily. Make him treat you as important. Don’t be easy. Don’t be like every other girl he had in his life.
A man won’t let go, if he really loves you.

10 Ways to Keep A Guy on His Toes in a Relationship

1. Don’t make him your everything and lose yourself in the process. Guys don’t like being suffocated and depended on for everything so you shouldn’t drop your friends, your hobbies and the things that made you you- it’s these things that made him like you in the first place.
2. Don’t be too moody or nag him too much. If you have a problem, calmly bring it up and then learn to let go. Trust him and the way he feels about you.
3. Don’t tell him you love him every 5 minutes. Girls love being told how a guy feels, they like hearing sweet words and compliments but guys aren’t like this. They want to maintain their masculinity even if they are in love. Save those three special words for special moments.
4. Stay adventurous. The reason we all have honeymoon periods is because the first month or two of dating is totally new and exciting. If you do the same things, go to the same places and have the same kind of bedroom fun all the time, it becomes routine and the spark dies out.
5. Be flirty. Flirting is not only about getting a guy’s interest, it’s about keeping it. Flirting, being seductive, teasing and keeping some form of sexual banter makes things more fun and exciting for the both of you.
6. Make him feel like a man. Men always need an ego boost every now and again, but don’t overdo it with the compliments because they may eventually find it to be too much.
7. Don’t be too clingy, especially in public. Guys like their space, they don’t always want to hold hands or have their girl up in their face all the time. The whole world doesn’t need to know you’re a couple and you don’t want to risk looking desperate trying to keep him. Just relax and enjoy the conversation and what you’re doing rather than trying to maintain physical contact non-stop.
8. Be confident with yourself and look fabulous. Look good for you, pamper yourself and feel pretty. Nothing keeps a man interested more than confidence.
9. Share hobbies. Do things he likes to do as well as what you like. It can’t always be about watching rom-coms; try doing things he enjoys, even if it involves playing video games you don’t like, or try and find new things you like doing together.
10. Be good friends. The best relationships are when you’re friends, lovers and in love. Having that partner means being there for them.

7 Scientifically Proven Signs that you're in Love

1. “This one’s special” – When we’re in love we’re convinced that there is no one to match the person we love. Everything they do seems wonderful.

2. “She’s perfect” – When we’re in love we are blind to their flaws. To us, they are perfect and can’t do any wrong.

3. “I’m a wreck!” – When we’re in love our emotions are a mess. We feel as if we are on a roller coast ride – elated one moment, then terrified the next.

4.  “I’m obsessed with him” – When we’re in love we can’t get them off our mind. We’re always thinking of them, from morning until night.

5. “I wish we could be together all the time” – People in love experience jealousy and the same kind of need and dependency as a child who is attaching to their primary caregiver.

6. “I hope we stay together forever” - When we’re in love we dream and we plan of a future together, and a destiny shared.

7. “I’d do anything for her” - When we’re in love we’re acutely aware of the other person’s feelings, their sadness and pain. We want to be the one who will ease their suffering, and we do what we can to bring them joy and happiness.

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How to tell if Somebody Loves You

Somebody loves you if they pick an eyelash off of your face or wet a napkin and apply it to your dirty skin. You didn’t ask for these things, but this person went ahead and did it anyway. They don’t want to see you looking like a fool with eyelashes and crumbs on your face. They notice these things. They really look at you and are the first to notice if something is amiss with your beautiful visage!

Somebody loves you if they assume the role of caretaker when you’re sick. Unsure if someone really gives a shit about you? Fake a case of food poisoning and text them being like, “Oh, my God, so sick. Need water.” Depending on their response, you’ll know whether or not they REALLY love you. “That’s terrible. Feel better!” earns you a stay in friendship jail; “Do you need anything? I can come over and bring you get well remedies!” gets you a cozy friendship suite. It’s easy to care about someone when they don’t need you. It’s easy to love them when they’re healthy and don’t ask you for anything beyond change for the parking meter. Being sick is different. Being sick means asking someone to hold your hair back when you vomit. Either love me with vomit in my hair or don’t love me at all.

Somebody loves you if they call you out on your bullshit. They’re not passive, they don’t just let you get away with murder. They know you well enough and care about you enough to ask you to chill out, to bust your balls, to tell you to stop. They aren’t passive observers in your life, they are in the trenches. They have an opinion about your decisions and the things you say and do. They want to be a part of it; they want to be a part of you.

Somebody loves you if they don’t mind the quiet. They don’t mind running errands with you or cleaning your apartment while blasting some annoying music. There’s no pressure, no need to fill the silences. You know how with some of your friends there needs to be some sort of activity for you to hang out? You don’t feel comfortable just shooting the shit and watching bad reality TV with them. You need something that will keep the both of you busy to ensure there won’t be a void. That’s not love. That’s “Hey, babe! I like you okay. Do you wanna grab lunch? I think we have enough to talk about to fill two hours!“ It’s a damn dream when you find someone you can do nothing with. Whether you’re skydiving together or sitting at home and doing different things, it’s always comfortable. That is fucking love.

Somebody loves you if they want you to be happy, even if that involves something that doesn’t benefit them. They realize the things you need to do in order to be content and come to terms with the fact that it might not include them. Never underestimate the gift of understanding. When there are so many people who are selfish and equate relationships as something that only must make them happy, having someone around who can take their needs out of any given situation if they need to.

Somebody loves you if they can order you food without having to be told what you want. Somebody loves you if they rub your back at any given moment. Somebody loves you if they give you oral sex without expecting anything back. Somebody loves you if they don’t care about your job or how much money you make. It’s a relationship where no one is selling something to the other. No one is the prostitute. Somebody loves you if they’ll watch a movie starring Kate Hudson because you really really want to see it. Somebody loves you if they’re able to create their own separate world with you, away from the internet and your job and family and friends. Just you and them.

Somebody will always love you. If you don’t think this is true, then you’re not paying close enough attention.”
- Ryan O'Connell

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12 Signs You're Dating a Man, Not A Boy

1. His apartment looks like an apartment.

Not a frat house. Not a zoo. Not a garbage dump, but an actual apartment. He doesn’t necessarily have to have his own place. Nor does it need to be extravagantly furnished, but you should be able to distinguish the floor from the rest of the place.
Grown men take pride in surrounding themselves with an environment that supports an active and healthy lifestyle. If he’s too lazy to keep his place clean then he’s definitely too lazy for the more important things in life.

2. He does what he does because he loves to do it – he’s more than capable of motivating himself.

This isn’t to say that a guy working at McDonald’s isn’t a grown-ass man. Unless, of course, that’s where he plans on staying. It’s really all about the plan. Grown men have plans to get themselves from point A to point B. More importantly still, they are driven to do so.

3. He doesn’t ever need a babysitter.

No matter how drunk he is, no matter the situation… if your man is able to take care of himself and get his sh*t done, then he’s a grown man.
If you’re dating a guy who needs you to carry him home after a night out or to keep a leash on him so he doesn’t go off an do something stupid, then I think you know the kind of guy you’re dating.

4. When he has a problem, he speaks his mind – and does so calmly and respectively.

You see, grown men don’t just go about agreeing with everything their women say. They have a mind of their own and they’re more than happy to speak their opinions. However, they do so respectfully and are always open to hearing your thoughts on the matter.

5. He has his priorities straight – and you know you’re most definitely one of them.

Guys who are lost in life aren’t much more than boys. Men have direction. Boys have playtime. If your man knows what he wants out of life and gives all those things that are most important to him attention and care, then you have yourself a winner.

6. He takes care of himself – body and mind.

His body is his temple and his mind is his high-priest. He lives by his own religion – his own philosophies. He understands that in order to feel good, you have to feel healthy. He’s a well-oiled machine, inside and out.

7. He supports you and your dreams, always encouraging you and keeping things positive.

It’s the men who tell you that you can’t do something, that you can’t accomplish something, who are poisonous. Grown men don’t like to use the word “can’t,” especially when it comes to the women they love.

8. He doesn’t complain because he knows complaining doesn’t yield results.

He puts his nose to the grind and produces results. Bitching is for bitches. He’s a grown-ass man.

9. He makes decisions, but is more than comfortable with allowing you to take the wheel.

There is never a need to have one of those pointless “what do you want to do?”, “I don’t know, whatever you want to do” conversations. If you ask him what he wants to do, he gives you options, not a question or a volley in response.

10. When he has you alone, he isn’t interested in anything other than you.

He’s not concerned with the show on TV, the music on the radio or anything other than getting you undressed. He’s a man, an animal. And he is more than keen to let the animal out to play.

11. He admits that he is wrong when he is wrong.

He doesn’t point fingers or try to maneuver out of the situation. He understands that being wrong is part of human nature. There’s no shame in it. He understands that you can’t learn if you can’t admit you’re wrong.

12. He knows your value and appreciates you for you.

He doesn’t just tell you he loves you – he shows you he loves you. To him, you are a part of his life. You are an extension of him.
He cares about you and knows that words fall short of the emotions he feels for you. He’s not shy to show you he loves you because you are one of the most important aspects of his life.

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